Oppress \ə-ˈpres\

  1. To keep down by severe and unjust use of force or authority.
  2. To cause to feel worried or depressed.
  3. To overwhelm or crush.

If someone is paying your way, for example they pay for your rent, your utilities, your groceries, your clothing, or your children’s food, you are not oppressed.

You might be coddled and spoiled, but no one is keeping you down by force or authority. The few limits you face are imposed upon you by your benefactor and your own acquiescence to such benefaction. If the benefactor happens to be malevolent and says you must live in a ghetto of his design there is no force or authority that benefactor can use to make you acquiesce. You choose to take the money and accept the terms, or you refuse to be a puppet of others and move on. If you move on and feel worried and depressed, well, welcome to adulthood. But there is no one out there in America threatening to overwhelm or crush you. You are not oppressed.

If you are able to spend a little time walking down to the local mart in a pair of orange Nike boats where you shoplift the paraphernalia needed to spend the rest of your day high on marijuana, you are not oppressed.

You might be lazy, or stupid, or growing increasingly stupid through the substance abuse an adult of my youthful acquaintance once called “kid stuff”, but no one is shoving that gage down your throat by force or authority. You have acquiesced to an activity that will limit your daily possibilities and future possibilities. You are probably short sighted and goofy, therefore of little value to an employer or family members. You anesthetize yourself so you won’t feel worried or depressed, but there is no one in America threatening to overwhelm you or crush you over a blunt. You are not oppressed.

If you spend a lot of hours fetishizing over your sexual proclivities, tastes, and possible gender assignment you are not oppressed.

You might be confused or angry, unable to find satisfaction in the relationships a majority of people find comfortable, but no one is oppressing you. You have acquiesced to internal desires and needs at least 90% of your fellow citizens do not feel or understand. They are under no obligation to look at the world as you do simply on account of your existence. You will find whole city blocks dedicated to whatever it is you desire. There truly are no limits to what you can do; no one uses force or authority to lock up gays, lesbians, bi’s or whatevers. You might think yourself unique, but this stuff has happened all through history. No one else is concerned enough about you to cause you to feel worried or depressed. No one in modern America is out to overwhelm you or crush you. Believe what you want, and for God’s sake allow others to believe what they want. You are not oppressed.

If you move to a new country and bring with you a different set of religious beliefs many in your new nation may find a little scary, you are not oppressed.

You came here seeking a type of freedom lacking in your old country. A large part of the American concept of liberty is based upon mutual respect for religious, cultural, and language traditions.  If you came here seeking refuge or peace, opportunity or equality, you found them in abundance. If you came here to freeload, complain about a lack of certain foods in schools, to set yourself apart by accenting your cultural differences with Americans and refusing to adapt to our systems and lingua franca, you will find yourself unhappy. No one in America will cause you to feel worried or depressed because you are different. You have acquiesced to a homesickness you should have foreseen and decided to forgo. America is an adventure. In America we are all different, get it?  There is no unjust use of force or authority acted upon citizens based upon ethnicity or religion. No one is out to overwhelm you or crush you. You have actually seen real oppression in the country you left. You are not oppressed.

So let’s get over all of this self-pity.

Faking “oppression” where none exists will never get you to the grown-up table. If all you bring is accusation, bile, and overworked terms rendered meaningless, do not blame the American people for refusing to partake.

Don’t tell us what we failed to bring to your table, tell us what you plan to bring to our common table.

And then do it.